It's always the little things, isn't it? A sweet note in your lunchbox, no reason flowers, an unexpectedly clean car when your partner returns from borrowing it...
The little things at your wedding count too. It's easy to get swept up in the big details: the menu, the centerpieces, the exact right shade of ivory linens!
The little details of those bigger elements will come to you throughout the event planning process—possibly as a panic attack in the middle of the night. So many of those little things are unique to your wedding + guests, but some are universal tidbits that are often forgotten until the last moment.
So, we're going to help you out with a bit of free advice. When you're planning your wedding, here are a few things to remember:
1. Provide Seating at Cocktail Hour
It's unlikely that your list doesn't include at least one older or disabled guest. If your cocktail hour layout is just high boy tables and a bar, you may want to inquire with your venue or a rental company about adding a little bit of seating to the space.
Standing for an hour or longer can be incredibly trying for some guests. I'm not advocating for seating for the whole guest list, but make sure you have enough chairs for a few tired guests so they can reserve their energy for dancing the night away.
2. Feed Your Vendors
This may be an obvious one to some, but I've known many brides + grooms who have asked if feeding their vendors is required. The answer is a resounding YES. Your vendors are with you all day long and can't leave for a lunch break during your vows. Not only is it respectful to feed them, it's required. Make sure to ask their meal selections and include them in your final list for the caterer.
3. Communicate Meal Selections
If you're serving a plated dinner, you'll need to determine a way of indicating each guest's meal selection to the wait staff. You don't want a waiter interrupting the best man's speech to ask each guest if they ordered the chicken or the fish. The simplest way to do this is with a place card. Make the ink or paper a different color based on entree selection. You could even use a ribbon or other decor item at the place setting to indicate this. If you have a wedding monogram or logo, a great option is to have a stamp made and use this on the place card in different ink colors. Just make sure to communicate which color matches up with each meal to your venue or caterer.
4. Welcome Your Guests
A welcome toast from the happy couple is not a requirement, but is a perfect opportunity to thank your closest friends and family for their help with your wedding and, most importantly, thank all of your guests for coming. You won't get to spend a ton of time talking with each guest so taking the time to give a heartfelt thanks is a very nice touch.
5. Create a Clean Up Plan
At the end of the night, you're probably going to end up with more stuff than you came with. Between decor, flowers, cards and gifts, you'll have a lot that needs to be cleaned up and taken care of. Assign someone you trust to be responsible for gathering these items and bringing them to an agreed upon location, particularly gifts and cards, as you do not want to leave them at the venue for pick up the next day. (*cough* a day-of coordinator is perfect for this responsibility *cough*)
6. Schedule a Sanity Check
Holy cow, you just got married! A private moment with your new spouse during the blur of your wedding day is so special and important. Try to schedule five minutes of private time (between your ceremony and cocktail hour) to take it all in.
I like to think of a wedding as an expression of you and your relationship with your partner. While the day is about you, it's also about the celebration and coming together of families and friends. How people feel on your wedding day is an extension of you and treating people well is all in the little details.
As Maya Angelou said, “At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”
P.S. Excuse my sappiness in this post particularly while I say Happy 9 Years to my husband!