When it comes to weddings, and life in general, traditions are beautiful, meaningful, and incredibly important. But that doesn’t mean we can’t break a tradition here and there for the sake of something that is, perhaps, more modern and even more meaningful to you.
Here are a few ideas for breaking traditions at your wedding. (There are many, many more where these came from…)
Mix Up the Bridal Party
Can we talk about me for a second? Okay, thanks. I sincerely regret not asking some of my best friends to stand up in my wedding because they are dudes. It didn’t even occur to me that I could have asked them to be my bridesmen until it was too late. So mix it up, I say! Bridesman, Groomslady, whatever floats your boat. And if people don’t like it, well then…that’s just a ridiculous thing to be upset about so who cares what they think.
Let Them Eat Cake
Or fruit tart, or pie, or cream puffs, or pizza, or tacos, or….oops, just getting hungry now. In all seriousness, there is no rule stating you must serve cake at your wedding. So what’s your favorite dessert? Do you and your fiancé have a special treat that is meaningful to you? Maybe you make chocolate covered strawberries every year on your anniversary? Go for it!
Flip the Timeline
Whoever said you have to wait until after dinner to have your first dance apparently just wanted nervous nellies to starve on their wedding day. Of course, you don’t want to make your guests wait until 9:00 for dinner, but changing your timeline around a bit can make the day suit your style and needs better than a traditional timeline might. Not to mention, the element of surprise for your guests is FUN! I can guarantee most of your guests have been to a wedding or two or two hundred before and can set their watch to the timing of a reception. Shock them out of their wedding stupor.
Do Me A Favor, Stop With These Favors
Let me preface this one by saying, you can never go wrong with a really great favor like classic truffles from your favorite chocolate shop. High quality, edible favors are the bomb. This will always be true. However, for many people, favors become an afterthought in idea and expense so you end up with bubble wands and Jordan almonds. If you get to the point where you’re spending $100 on oddly colored almonds, just remember what I’m about to say: You don’t need to have wedding favors. But if you really do want to give something to your guests (and I don’t blame you, they’re awesome), donate that money to a charity in their name or take some time to think of an interactive station where guests can make their own favor to take home. You can even make that station triple as entertainment, a favor, and a late night snack. Caramel apples, trail mix, s’mores…the world is your oyster.
So, the moral of the story, shake it up. Your wedding can be whatever you want it to be.